So many people have no idea what all this is like and I am so happy that they don't have to experience this kind of pain, but when I was thinking about all this an analogy came to me about what this is like. I am not necessarily talking completely about my situation here it's a pretty general comparison. I am hoping this gives some insight to people and that someone will read this and think twice before they walk down a similar road. I am hoping that this will open people's eyes to just how important the marriage covenant is. I also hope that I do not offend those who have had no choice, but to put an end to their marriage. That is by no means my intent. I just want to help people think about it from a different perspective.
As I am facing the end of my marriage coming closer and closer I really believe that God gave me this analogy for what it is I am faced with. The more I think about divorce I realize that it is much like being faced with losing a limb. I am still a whole and complete person without my husband, but our family will be operating at a handicap. I imagine the pain with losing a limb is probably unbearable and death would almost sound like the better option. The pain one experiences through a separation or divorce is more difficult than death. Two people who have become one can not separate without feeling the painful effects of that tearing apart. Now because we serve an awesome God He can bring healing just like if a limb were to be removed it would begin to heal with time and therapy. God can bring healing to our hearts as well. And even though the spot where the limb was removed is completely healed there will still be a scar there. And that person will not be able to function at the same level they once did with a healthy full functioning limb. They will always feel the effects of not having that limb. Now God will be there strength and get them through it all, but that does not change the fact that the limb is no longer there and it should be. The family will no longer function at its peak capacity with the absence of a parent in the home. So that makes it an incredibly difficult decision as to whether you should remove that limb or not. But if that limb is infected(living in sin) or the limb is no longer functioning or maybe it never functioned like it should then sometimes it is better to remove that limb so that it does not infect the rest of the body. (Please understand I do not condone divorce except in the case of adultery or abuse and even then I believe if possible you should reconcile) And maybe you are better off without that particular limb there, but you are still without a limb. God is more than able to bring someone else in your life just like there is prosthetic limbs available for those in need. I know there is some pretty amazing prosthetic limbs out there and some of them may even function better than the original limb in it's infected or not functioning state. And some may even function as close to the original as possible. However it will not operate as smoothly as the original in a healthy state and that has nothing to do with how amazing the prosthetic is. God intended for a husband and wife to be married for a life time and that is how the family unit works best. God can do all things including restore a life after divorce, but the absolute best option is for that limb to be healed and never removed in the first place. But sometimes no matter how much you try to save that limb it is to no avail and you will have to remove it. And hey there is even some procedures where they can reattach those limbs;) You never know we serve a God of second chances and a God who heals. The possibilities are endless for those who trust in Him.
I am not trying to tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do. I believe that is a decision that has to be 100% that persons choice, because they are going to have to live with it for the rest of their lives. I just hope to give you another way to look at things and maybe help others who have not dealt with this before to have a better understanding of the gravity of the decision and just how important it is for that person to make the choice on their own accord with God's guidance every step of the way.
